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Issue
35
July 2001
Colourful
The
Heart of the Community
Money
for old hair!
Nowt
to do this summer?
A
fond farewell
Liberton
Prizewinners
Misuse
of City Dumps
Homelink
Preventing
crime in your community
Breast
Screening Programme
Health
matters in South Edinburgh
Do
you care for someone with a mental illness?
Gorgie
City Farm
Ferniehill
Sheltered Housing Complex
Ravenscroft
Sheltered Housing
Gilmerton
Dykes Tenants & Residents Association
Shopping
in South Edinburgh?
No
summer library closures
NEXT
GEN UTD
Working
Together
Advice
Surgeries in South Edinburgh
Safely
Does It
ABE
Letters
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Homelink
 I moved to South Edinburgh from Lancashire to get away from my violent partner, and am setting up home with my 4 year old daughter. I’m not sorry to be away from the 7 year “prison sentence” I’ve had with my partner, but I don’t know anyone here and am worried my daughter has “seen too
much”.
What you’ve done has taken a lot of courage! Well done to have gotten so far after facing so much! You must have used a lot of energy to get this far and maybe you are emotionally and physically tired now. You may also have been made to feel guilty and worthless. Maybe you sometimes wonder if you have done the right thing. Don’t give up now. You’ve obviously got a lot of strengths and your sensitivity to your daughter shows she’s in a caring
family. You probably need some friends at this point. Ask your nursery or children’s centre for advice on groups they may know, and your nearest community centre and library can tell you what is going on in the
area. If it is too soon to try these things on your own contact Home Link 664 9880 for more individual
support.
What can I do to get my wee boy to sleep at
night? He won’t go to bed till I go. I used to let him fall asleep on the settee watching telly with me but he’s getting bigger and awake longer. I need some time to
myself.
You certainly do need some space especially as you’ve been busy all day being a mum! And whether he thinks it or not, your son needs plenty of “space” to sleep. Children need a routine and if the pattern so far has been to fall asleep beside you it will take a bit of effort to change it. He’s not being awkward. He may feel frightened and lonely in another
room so don’t expect him to agree without a struggle and a bit of time, till he feels safe and
relaxed. Plenty of exercise during the day and keeping the same times for meals and activities is important. Many parents find it a help to have an early evening meal, followed by a short play, then bath time, with a story time in his own bed. You may have to read for quite a long time at first, but resist the temptation to give in. Offer to check on him regularly if he stays in bed and don’t forget to do
it! Good luck!
If you are interested in becoming a Home Link
visitor to young families contact Irene Hannah 664 9880.
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